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<rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><atom:link rel="hub" href="http://tumblr.superfeedr.com/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"/><description>Johnny Dzubak of The Art of Charm discusses life, love, sex and rock and roll. I also co-host “Go Legendary” coming in November to Kevin Smiths Smodcast Network.</description><title>Johnny Dzubak.</title><generator>Tumblr (3.0; @johnnydzubak)</generator><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/</link><item><title>superseventies:

Johnny Thunders at Max’s Kansas City,...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4bb3qpVM51qzdza2o1_400.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://superseventies.tumblr.com/post/23753242886/photography-phone-music-books-fashion-clothes-shopping-r"&gt;superseventies&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Johnny Thunders at Max’s Kansas City, 1970s.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Rock and Roll&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/23753713609</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/23753713609</guid><pubDate>Fri, 25 May 2012 17:36:03 -0400</pubDate><category>Rock and Roll</category><category>Punk Rock</category></item><item><title>Where Is Your Swagger</title><description>&lt;p&gt;Because of SEO purposes my Art of Charm articles will now only be linked here. So go there to read it!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://theartofcharm.com/confidence/where-is-your-swagger/"&gt;http://theartofcharm.com/confidence/where-is-your-swagger/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/23704840526</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/23704840526</guid><pubDate>Thu, 24 May 2012 20:55:00 -0400</pubDate><category>Confidence</category><category>swagger</category><category>arrogance</category><category>Attraction</category><category>animal attraction</category></item><item><title> Getting Vulnerable </title><description>&lt;p&gt;The last article I wrote was about the strength and power vulnerability has. Today I want to talk to you about a few tactics to help  you achieve a deeper vulnerability.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;First, let’s try to erase the first thoughts that come to mind when I mention the word vulnerability. Let’s face it, look up the word vulnerable in any source and you will see defenseless, helpless, exposed and other scary words that don’t evoke a lot of confidence in this process. Be strong and understand that the more you’re open, the more people can see you and connect with you.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Start an anonymous twitter account to post random thoughts about your day. This will allow you to break from the chains of having to be identified and connected t0 any of your ramblings.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Start a blog and make it anonymous. Jot down all of your thoughts and feeling from your nights out and other adventures. Allow yourself to post anything from the quaking in your shoes to the knot in your stomach.Try writing poetry, songs and stories. Find the right medium for you.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Start expressing yourself without fear. Remember, your thoughts and opinions are yours and you are entitled  to express them just like everyone else is. Remember, religion and politics are trouble grounds so be extra careful when venturing into those areas. Until you’re ready, try to avoid those topics all together.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Learn to poke fun at yourself without being self-deprecating. Embarrassing and lighthearted stories about youth, family, work, school and life are great ways to laugh at yourself. Make sure the stories come from a fun place when you tell them. That will help the context come across and give yourself a chuckle when you&amp;#8217;re through. This allows others to feel good about opening up and sharing as well. The more this happens the more comfortable people will feel around you.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Check out improv. Not only is it a great tool to help with banter but it stops you from  over thinking. Part of vulnerability comes from putting yourself out there with no idea what’s going to happen. That is where the power of vulnerability happens.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Use Toast Masters as a tool to sharpen your public speaking skills. Use it as a way to practice delivering a message and taking focus away from your anxieties. Toastmaster has a team of professional speakers ready to help you. Improv and Toast Masters are relatively cheap and can be found almost anywhere.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The less time you are spending trying to cover up what it is you are afraid of people seeing, the more time you can spend connecting and bringing awesome people into your life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;For other help in connecting better with others check out &lt;a href="http://theartofcharm.com/products/the-art-of-charm-academy/" target="_blank"&gt;The Art of Charm Academy&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/22743258126</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/22743258126</guid><pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2012 19:17:29 -0400</pubDate><category>Vulnerability</category><category>connection</category><category>creating vulnerability</category><category>strength in vulnerability</category></item><item><title>ladyrockerz:

The Runaways
</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3ie5lhGiv1rvpho5o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://ladyrockerz.tumblr.com/post/22389629367/the-runaways"&gt;ladyrockerz&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;The Runaways&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/22691811261</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/22691811261</guid><pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2012 21:59:44 -0400</pubDate><category>The Runaways</category><category>Rock and Roll</category><category>Glam Rock</category><category>Punk Rock</category><category>Queens of Noise</category><category>Joan Jett</category></item><item><title>Use Vulnerability to Connect Better</title><description>&lt;p&gt;I got an email asking why I write a lot of personal stories on this blog. There are a multitude of answers for that and I will answer that question in the hopes that you use the same information to better your own connections and relationships.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The more I can point out my own flaws and wear them as badges of courage, the more real I become to my audience. I write to reach you guys and if It appears like I am a mythical unicorn then there is no hope in me connecting with you. The more embarrassing stories I tell, the more I write about the nerdy things I care about, the more real I become. It also is really rad to write about my first job or a lesson I learned in heartbreak and have you guys comment on it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It’s a hard thing to write candidly because putting it out there leaves room for others to scrutinize and critique. These are actual thoughts and feelings as well as opinions and beliefs. To run them up a flagpole for everyone to see is nerve wracking. I have no control over what happens after I post an article. I can be applauded, flamed or even ridiculed on my writing skills or lack there of. I have plenty of material I never posted just because I got a little queasy at the idea of someone reading something sensitive to me. But you know what? In the end, the most personal stuff I’ve written seems to get the most comments. The more people can chime in and relate an experience that they have, had the more they can connect.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It’s been hard to throw caution to the wind and say, “fuck it” but without it, connecting becomes difficult. People like people who are like themselves. Just look at the friends you have. Whether they are from school or work or they just have the same interests as you, you feel comfortable opening up to them because you feel they get you. There is an unspoken recognition with each other.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We like to be in control and have a handle on every situation. Unfortunately, connection doesn’t have control. You are disclosing information about yourself without knowing how others will react to it. The sooner you realize it the more comfortable you will be with that idea.  We all have a social mask that we use to protect us from the criticism and ridicule. We do it by either being aggressive, by making excuses or by not doing anything at all.  Being aggressive and making excuses take energy and is tiring. Doing nothing at all leaves us empty and depressed.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It’s not coincidence that the men that come through The Art of Charm who are ready to drop their persona and are ready to be who they have always have been, leave having the most success and live fulfilled lives.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Be real and be awesome!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Here are a few noted quotes about vulnerability that I like:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;― &lt;a href="http://www.brenebrown.com/"&gt;Brene Brown,&lt;/a&gt; Vulnerability researcher&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;“Vulnerability is the only authentic state. Being vulnerable means being open, for wounding, but also for pleasure. Being open to the wounds of life means also being open to the bounty and beauty. Don’t mask or deny your vulnerability: it is your greatest asset. Be vulnerable: quake and shake in your boots with it. the new goodness that is coming to you, in the form of people, situations, and things can only come to you when you are vulnerable, i.e. open.”&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;― &lt;a href="http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/155009.Stephen_Russell"&gt;Stephen Russell&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/22338700612</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/22338700612</guid><pubDate>Thu, 03 May 2012 17:08:00 -0400</pubDate><category>Vulnerability</category><category>rapport</category><category>intimacy</category><category>dating</category><category>connection</category><category>love</category><category>relationships</category><category>networking</category></item><item><title>5 Simple Rules To Engage In Romance/Affairs At Work</title><description>&lt;p&gt;We all know we shouldn’t do it, but what we should do and will do are two very different things. A few weeks ago &lt;a href="http://johnnydzubak.com/post/20072387089/why-not-to-pursue-love-sex-at-work" target="_blank"&gt;posted an article &lt;/a&gt;on why dating and romancing in the office is such a bad idea, so there is no need to rehash it. However, since we all know that some of you will go ahead and ruin your lives anyway, let’s put together a few rules to help us keep the damage to as little as possible.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Keep the pursuing and flirting at work to a minimum&lt;/strong&gt; – If you think she is interested in you and you want to pursue it, tell her that you and some friends are going out for some drinks and that she should meet you all out. This way the flirting and other such behavior stays out of the work place and you can get a better understanding of what her intentions are now that you are not in the office. Make sure that she knows it’s not a work function and that there is a primary reason you asked her to come out be it a music show, an art exhibit or wine tasting. This way it can’t be misinterpreted as a purely work related get together. You are looking to investigate this matter more and a concert or art show allows you to do this under the radar.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Be honest about what your intentions are&lt;/strong&gt; – The more you try to hide or game play this situation the easier it is to blow up in your face. If you know a co-worker is interested and you are interested as well, be honest about what you want out of the relationship. If it’s just sex then let her know. That very well might be all that she wants as well. No need to cover up what you want only to have either of you feel lied to or taken advantage of.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Make sure that there is no evidence anywhere&lt;/strong&gt; – Do not tell co-workers, take pictures or continue the flirting at work. You do not want to end up as gossip. If word starts going around the office that an affair might be happening then everyone’s views of the both of you can be challenged. This also gives others ammo to use against you in the climbing the ladder war. Whatever you do keep it between the both of you. Letting your buddy know the finer details of your tryst to win some cool points will only come back to bite you in the ass. Besides, cool people don’t have to talk about these sorts of things.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Careful of social media&lt;/strong&gt; – To outgoing and busy people, social media might not carry much weight. But for a bored and drama-filled person, rooting around in other peoples&amp;#8217; lives hasn’t been easier. It will not be too hard to put 2 + 2 together and realize that something is possibly going on and “possibly” is all most drama causing people need to get it started. Either have a separate profile for co-workers or do not connect with them at all through social networks. It can only lead to trouble.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Make sure the other person is responsible&lt;/strong&gt; – Yes it takes two to tango, but it only takes one to screw it all up. Try not to rationalize away red flags or bad behavior over a pretty face or perfect breasts. If you think the girl is a little off, then you’re probably right and you probably should not be encouraging an encounter. Then again, if you had that part of your brain working I wouldn’t have to write this article in the first place.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;p&gt;So go on and do what I told you not to do and hope for the best. At least follow our few simple rules.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/21343338207</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/21343338207</guid><pubDate>Wed, 18 Apr 2012 17:51:31 -0400</pubDate><category>I told you not to</category><category>connection</category><category>Work</category><category>love at work</category><category>How to pursue lov at work</category><category>Relationships at work</category><category>sex at work</category><category>sex</category><category>Attraction</category><category>Bad idea</category></item><item><title>How I Awkwardly Lost My V-card A Bazillion Years Ago</title><description>&lt;p&gt;I was a bit of a late bloomer and was very involved with music and skateboarding. Women as much as I was attracted to them, were a side thought and a distraction from my other two priorities. Though I had a few earlier chances, I was a very nervous about it and would rather just avoid the whole awkwardness of dealing with the situation.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was 18, and in my circle of friends it was kind of well known that I was still a virgin. I did have some experience with girls, but decided to keep it to everything but the deed. My father had me scared shitless that my life would be over if I had gotten a girl pregnant so I never let things get to far.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With the girls in our circle it seemed like there was a bounty on my virginity. I escaped several attempts successfully.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It was my senior year of high school. On the weekends we would go skateboarding until about midnight, then go to Denny’s to get ice teas afterwards and hang out all night until one of us would get thrown out for being delinquent teenagers. The girls in our crew knew our routine and would go to Denny’s to hang out with us and cause their own brand of teenage riot girl mayhem.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;On one particular Friday night, we were hanging out at Denny’s when one of the girls had asked me to come outside to check out her new car stereo. I was annoyed and was asking why, and trying to play it cool for my friends. I was a real insecure fool back then. Reluctantly, I went with her to see her new stereo. As she got into the driver’s side, I got into the passenger’s side while another of her friends got in next to me placing me in the middle, blocking my exit as she closed the passenger door. The girl in the driver’s side started up the car and started to head out of the Denny’s parking lot. At this point I was very confused &amp;#8220;Hey where are we going?” I asked. “Stacey’s” they replied. “What for?” I asked, “Someone there wants to see you.&amp;#8221; At this point I’m highly annoyed. My friends were at Denny’s and they are going to wonder where I am. I started complaining, hoping they would return me.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;What I didn’t know was that Stacy had a friend who had a crush on me and decided she was going to take my V card. They worked up this kidnapping plan to get me over to her. They told me Michelle was there and that I had to hang out with her for a bit. Then they would take me back to my friends. I still didn’t put together what was up.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As we pulled into Stacy’s, the girls in the car were laughing uncontrollably and I could not figure out why. As we walked into Stacy’s, Michelle was smiling ear to ear and lead me to the bedroom that had been laid out with incense and candles. “Ohhh noooo!” I had figured it out and it was too late. At this moment, seeing the effort that was put into this caper and knowing my innocence had to go sooner or later, I decided to just go with it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There wasn’t much anxiety about the deed; I knew it needed to be over with and I stumbled through it hoping to do my best with the little knowledge I had. It was a wonderful teenage experience and besides, the whole kidnapping idea made for a fantastic coming of age story. My only real regret over the whole experience was that if I could go back I would change the music. Losing my virginity to the Grateful Dead still irks me to this day.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It’s never the way you plan it or think it might happen. &lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/20577565011</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/20577565011</guid><pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 02:49:11 -0400</pubDate><category>Viginity</category><category>the first time</category><category>Connection</category><category>Attraction</category><category>sex</category><category>Grateful dead</category></item><item><title>Why Not To Pursue Love/Sex At Work</title><description>&lt;p&gt;We have all heard horror stories about pursuing the opposite sex at work, yet for some reason people still do it and I get plenty of letters asking how to do it. Let’s just for old time sake have a refresher about why you should not shit where you eat.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;1. &lt;strong&gt;A productive work environment is a friendly work environment&lt;/strong&gt; – If you haven’t had much luck in your traditional hunting grounds, you could easily misread signals of the opposite sex at work. If you are frustrated in the least bit, the smallest of gestures could come off as advances and before you know it, you can quickly get find yourself in a few compromising situations.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;2. &lt;strong&gt;Sexual Harassment&lt;/strong&gt; – Well we might as well throw in the obvious here. Bantering can take on many forms and without proper tonality, it can be taken the wrong way. To a power hungry woman or a mousey insecure girl, this type of behavior can be a killer for your career. Someone looking for a quick way to bypass some rungs on a ladder might see this as an easy ticket and have you washing dishes in no time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;3. &lt;strong&gt;Dealing with the inevitable break-ups&lt;/strong&gt; – I know what a mess my regular breaks ups are. Why anyone would want to deal with that at work is insane. Watching over my back for thrown staplers and putting out rumor fires is not my idea of a hard day at the office. The workplace can be competitive enough in today’s minimal job market without the office dividing and taking sides. You need people to watch your back not stick a blade into it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;4.  &lt;strong&gt;Fodder for water cooler gossip&lt;/strong&gt; – Becoming the topic of conversation around the office can quickly help build a reputation for you. If it’s more office trim you are looking for this will give you plenty clout. If it’s that promotion you been waiting for, this can blow up in your face.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;5. &lt;strong&gt;Impossible to get work done&lt;/strong&gt; – If you have warmed up to the idea of pursuing women at work, now your work environment has become your hunting ground and with that your mentality at work will change. Your mind will be conflicted on what to pursue. Flirt or work, flirt or work. If you are in a flirting and attracting mindset it will be hard to concentrate on problem solving. Your brain is not designed to multitask that way. You will spread yourself thin and something will be done half assed.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Even though I have laid out 5 reasons why engaging with the opposite sex at work is a bad idea, many of you will still do it anyway and without proper guidance you will find yourself in a awful situation. So in the next article, let’s put together a few rules to do it without causing too much damage.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/20072387089</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/20072387089</guid><pubDate>Wed, 28 Mar 2012 15:21:05 -0400</pubDate><category>Fucking at work</category><category>Love</category><category>love at work</category><category>There is this girl at work</category><category>attraction</category><category>Abundance</category></item><item><title>5 Reasons She Is Not Worth Your Time</title><description>&lt;p&gt;It’s easy for a guy to rationalize a woman’s bad behavior because of a pretty face or perfect breasts, but let’s face it guys. Being good looking alone does not make her worthy of being in your lives. Here are 5 reasons she may not be good enough for you:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;1. &lt;strong&gt;She is a taker not a giver.&lt;/strong&gt; Special people add to your life, not take away from it. What should she be adding you ask? She should be adding appreciation, energy, emotional strength and intimacy. You should not have to work your ass off to draw these wonderful things from her. They should be handed over pleasantly. You will find that most people in the world are takers and if they are handing you these things it’s usually in exchange for the same. The issue here is that they should not be handed over with the expectations of any return. The old saying, &amp;#8220;Beside every good man is a good woman&amp;#8221; is true. The support and power you can receive from a good woman in immeasurable. A flourishing relationship is one that has both parties building each other up not tearing each other down.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;2. &lt;strong&gt;She looks for self-esteem from other people.&lt;/strong&gt; She is always looking for validation. Always looking to feel better about herself through others&amp;#8217; approval. Selfish people will always put themselves first. Being given self-validation through other people is a drop of water in a bucket; it’s never good enough. Real validation comes from within ourselves and is very powerful. You will always play second to someone who is addicted to seeking validation.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;3. &lt;strong&gt;She is always talking down about others.&lt;/strong&gt; Being a hater takes energy and shows your own insecurities. It’s overt jealousy. She should be focused on her life and how to improve it. Hating someone else for improving their life only shows what you truly want for yourself.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;4. &lt;strong&gt;She has too many pictures on her social media profiles.&lt;/strong&gt; Duck face pictures and abundant pictures of her partying. These pictures are there to impress and gain acceptance. They are signs of needing to be validated. Good profile pictures show people doing the things that they love whether it be their passions or the things they care about.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;5. &lt;strong&gt;She is always with an ailment.&lt;/strong&gt; Her social media profiles are always clamoring about the newest ailment. Ailments are ways to get attention through others&amp;#8217; sympathy. It’s manipulation at it’s best. Getting people to feel sorry for you is just another attempt to get attention; attention has always been a reward for people. Whether or not the attention is negative or positive does not matter as the attention in itself allows people to feel good.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Having a good woman who is adding to your own personal experience is like having your own personal cheerleader, consultant or advisor with whom can give the much-needed outside perspective we need for feedback. Great relationships are built on teamwork. When you move from a figurative “Me” to “We” it becomes a team. Choose your teammate wisely.&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/20051293723</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/20051293723</guid><pubDate>Wed, 28 Mar 2012 01:11:01 -0400</pubDate><category>Rationalizing</category><category>Love</category><category>dating</category><category>Girlfriend</category><category>Looking for love</category><category>Attraction</category><category>Showing interest</category></item><item><title>Pure rock and roll!</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m095deThMD1qj8sx8o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Pure rock and roll!&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18772508520</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18772508520</guid><pubDate>Sun, 04 Mar 2012 22:26:34 -0500</pubDate></item><item><title>suicideblonde:

Brigitte Bardot in between takes during the...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0ckeiUhcI1qz9qooo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://suicideblonde.tumblr.com/post/18746201558/brigitte-bardot-in-between-takes-during-the"&gt;suicideblonde&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Brigitte Bardot in between takes during the filming of &lt;em&gt;A Very Private Affair&lt;/em&gt;, 1962&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18749233774</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18749233774</guid><pubDate>Sun, 04 Mar 2012 16:28:39 -0500</pubDate></item><item><title>Rock and Roll</title><description>&lt;img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0aar3Vyoc1qe9ph9o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Rock and Roll&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18641513061</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18641513061</guid><pubDate>Fri, 02 Mar 2012 22:13:00 -0500</pubDate></item><item><title>suicidewatch:

Ramones with Rodney Bingenheimer, 1978
</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzr8iobD5R1qzezj5o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://suicidewatch.tumblr.com/post/18326150682/ramones-with-rodney-bingenheimer-1978"&gt;suicidewatch&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Ramones with Rodney Bingenheimer, 1978&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18371670025</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/18371670025</guid><pubDate>Mon, 27 Feb 2012 02:33:36 -0500</pubDate></item><item><title>My Second Job (Learning the hard way)</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I wrote an earlier post about my first job and what a wonderful experience it was&amp;#8230; The cheerleaders that worked there and the fun we had. I thought all jobs were going to be as fun as my last one. This is a story of the opposite; my second job as a teen.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I said in my last post I was fired from a cushy bus boy job at a kid’s pizza parlor filled with cute girls and a fun atmosphere for not paying for my lunch break food. I figured it would be no swear because I could just get myself another job. Besides, I now had work experience!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So back to the mall I went, filling out any and all applications. I received a call from Wendy’s. I instantly thought, “Great I love Wendy’s, best burgers in town!” So I excitingly went to my interview all cheery and ready to go back to work, received my uniform and got ready for my first day.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;My placement was an entry-level position as the grill man. Smashing down frozen beef patties, getting them ready for the assembly line. I’ve made hamburgers at home so how hard could this job be? I was ready to move up the ladder. When I got to work I found out that there are a lot of rules when it comes to grilling a hamburger for Wendy’s. The procedure was monotonous and particular to what corner got smashed down first in sequence.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There were no cute girls this time. All the employees were overweight and the manager was bitchy about everything. I quickly started to see how good I had it at my last job. This was the most boring place on the planet. I was forced in the back and the only person I could talk to was a 30 year old fry guy who hated his life. I quickly lost interest and dreaded coming to work.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;About 3 weeks in it seemed that I was getting bitched at on a daily basis for having a wrinkled uniform and bad attitude towards authority. My rationalization was that I shouldn&amp;#8217;t have to look presentable if I’m working on the grill away from customers.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One day the district manager was coming to visit our store and management was totally emotionally distraught over this. She had us scrubbing the entire place, which we were never instructed to do before. I was not sure why there was all this fuss until this self-entitled prick walked in. I remember him having and air of assholishness. He was unapproachable and condescending to everyone working there. Now I know I was a wise ass punk kid who “didn’t get it”, but they never offered an opportunity for me to get it. This was my first taste of the corporate environment. Everyone there was just trying to keep his or her job. Such a drastic difference from the family owned fun zone I previously worked at.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I remember this guy approaching me at the grill, repeatedly teaching me how to press meat onto the fryer, thinking that this was dumb. I gave him some attitude back, and finally my shift was over and I bolted out as fast as possible.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The next day I had called in to check my schedule and found that my shifts were limited to one day a week for the next two weeks as a punishment for my performance and demeanor. At this point I realized my days were numbered. I was on my way out either by my own accord or theirs.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;On my next shift I was dreading going to work and went in with my usual wrinkled shirt and bad attitude and began my shift on the grill. No one talked to me the entire time I was there and I felt like I was a dead man walking. At the end of my shift, they made me take the old oil out to the hopper. This was usually a two person job because of its weight, but no one came to help me and during the procedure of dumping this disgusting mess I got scalded when the oil pan toppled over on to me while trying to lift it above my waist into the disposal. I had officially had it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One week later, sick to my stomach about heading into work, I couldn’t see how I was going to make it through the shift. I rolled in with my uniform still covered in the spilled oil from last week. I could not have cared less. I began my isolated misery behind the grill when a friend of mine stopped in for a burger. He asked if he could speak with me and the manager reluctantly agreed. He asked how I was doing and I believe he could see the pain in my face. He asked if I wanted to go snowboarding and I explained to him I wasn’t getting off for a while and he said I could quit. This was something I had not really thought of before. Wow this was completely foreign to me. You mean I can just walk right out of here? What would my dad say? I figured through a shitty performance they would just fire me and was basically hoping they would. So I went up to the manager feeling extremely liberated and screamed, “I quit, I’m going snowboarding!” And I have to say that when I was on the chairlift that evening that this was one of the greatest days of my life!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;After a few days my father had figured out I didn’t have a job anymore and asked me why. I told him I had quit due to poor working conditions and he asked, “What took you so long? Fuck Wendy’s!” I was relieved and felt for the first time I had some control over my happiness!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Have you ever been in a situation you felt you could not leave? What happened when liberation had hit you? How good did you feel?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We have three choices to all situations – Leave it, accept it or change it. Never forget it!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/17802927305</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/17802927305</guid><pubDate>Fri, 17 Feb 2012 22:34:02 -0500</pubDate><category>Wendy's</category><category>Fast food jobs</category><category>Mcdonald's</category><category>Confidence</category><category>fear</category><category>liberation</category></item><item><title>Dude always looked rad!</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lumqjyCYP81qheyblo1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Dude always looked rad!&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/17645229615</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/17645229615</guid><pubDate>Wed, 15 Feb 2012 00:08:55 -0500</pubDate><category>Hendrix</category></item><item><title>My First Real Job (learning the hard way)</title><description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I remember asking my dad for a new pair of shoes when I was 15. At this time I was an avid skateboarder for years and I was going through shoes and skateboards by the dozens. Seeing how my father knew that being supportive in my hobby would keep me out of trouble and mind away from the divorce, he would often succumb to my requests. I guess on this particular day he had enough and decided to give me the “time to get a job talk”. I was expecting it, but was hoping it would be coming a little later.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This was fine for me because I felt it would allow me to be a little more independent. I quickly started thinking about all the stuff I could get with the money I would earn from a job. I remember thinking of cars and skateboards and really becoming an individual. This was great, until I realized what jobs a 15 yr old could get.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So that afternoon my father drove me to the mall. I was determined to walk out with a job. I must have turned in an application to every store in the mall, whether or not they could use me. I don’t even think I knew what kind of job I could get. I just figured they would be lucky to have a go-getter like me!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Of all the applications I filled out, I ended up getting a job as a bus boy for a privately owned Chuckie Cheese type place. It was a pizza parlor with games and prizes and animatronics that told stories from a stage.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of the greatest perks about the place was that the management hired a majority of their girls from my high school cheerleading squad. At this time in my life I was still obsessed with music and skateboarding and girls were still strange, annoying and distant to me. This was also at a time when skateboarding was still a fringe sport and usually resulted in me getting picked on at school, so even being close to the “popular” girls was a bit interesting and addictive.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;My uniform for this gig was black slacks and a red and white candy stripped vest with a bow tie and red visor. I was definitely not pimp and no matter what I did, I swear those clothes always smelled like pizza.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I got along with the other staff quite well. After all, I was a busy bee at work and it meant independence to me. Even the “popular cheerleaders” spoke to me at work and it even spread a bit to my school. They would not even acknowledge my existence before that; at least that was my thought at the time. I swear I must have walked around turned on the whole time I was there. It made showing up to work very easy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I remember getting my first check after three weeks of work. After taxes and everything else, it was a cool $119.00 and I was ecstatic. I quickly ordered my new shoes and bought some clothes. I believe I spent most of that check rather quickly. After all I was getting another one in two weeks!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I did this job for close to two years and it was a blast. I finally got fired after stealing a pizza. It was one of those things where no one else was paying for their lunch break food and I just happened to be the guy they dropped the hammer on. I was young and I was following the crowd.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This first job did however teach me some lessons of responsibility and some early flirting fun. What was your first job? What lessons did you learn?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/17336578712</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/17336578712</guid><pubDate>Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:20:16 -0500</pubDate><category>First Jobs</category><category>Learning lessons the hard way</category><category>Confidence</category></item><item><title>Skills All Men Should Have In 2012</title><description>&lt;p&gt;As we are starting the new year, I thought I would share some skills that I believe all men should have or should at least be working on for 2012. These skills will help this year be the one that separates you from the other guys.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;1. Compliments - Being able to give a sincere compliment without seeming needy can be a hard thing to do. It’s a skill, and like others, can be sharpened and practiced everyday. The better you get at it the more effective it becomes. Well-placed compliments can make or break an interaction. To hone this craft, start by sending out compliments like machine gun fire indiscriminately to everyone you meet. Once you can make anyone smile whenever you choose while being detached from the outcome, feel free to channel your focus and allow this skill to be targeted to what you really want in life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;2. Throwing a party – In this day and age it’s all about who you know, and without proper hosing and party throwing skills, you can be left on the outside looking in. This skill, much like the others, can be practiced and honed and even the most introverted personality can fake his way through a fine evening of cocktails and chatter. A few simple tricks to remember&amp;#8230; keep it small to start. Perhaps a dinner party or pre cocktails before a show or a night bar hopping. Throw on some festive tunes and learn to make a few simple but interesting cocktails. Invite your guests and make sure everyone meets each other. One small tip: When introducing people who have never met before, give some value and a few small factoids about each person to help initiate a conversation. That should keep you busy throughout the evening.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;3. A decent 1&lt;sup&gt;st&lt;/sup&gt; date. – Whether you meet a girl online or at the club Friday night, make sure you can follow up that good first impression with a flawless and enjoyable date. Forget about the dinner and movie standard. You will find yourself fishing for things to talk about. The tension and awkwardness of those kinds of dates can be overwhelming. Keep those kinds of dates for when you are already in a relationship. Keep it simple and fun and make it something enjoyable that keeps the focus of the date off of each other and on an activity so that you can connect naturally. The silliest dates are the best.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;4.  Nailing your first impression - Without a good first impression, asking for the date or having some new friends over for a few drinks is out of the question. Keep a positive attitude, smile and have a proper handshake and you will make a good first impression. The art of the active listening scores points as well. Is shows a general interest and allows people to feel good about themselves. When people feel good about themselves, they look to keep those feeling going which means they will want to keep hanging out with you.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;5.  Knowing some kitchen basics - I hate to say it guys, but I will. There are women today  that don’t have the kitchen skills that their mothers had. With more and more women becoming independent and working full time jobs, learning the skill of cooking has been put on the back burner. Looking to find yourself a new mom to take care of you and cook you Mac n Cheese is getting harder every day. If you know how to whip up an easy breakfast or quick dinner, your points are going to go through the roof. You can find easy to cook recipes via a quick search in Google. Always remember to keep it simple.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;What other skills do you think all men should have in 2012?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Check out The Art of Charm Academy for an easy way to acquire these skills!&lt;/p&gt;</description><link>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/16883662975</link><guid>http://johnnydzubak.com/post/16883662975</guid><pubDate>Wed, 01 Feb 2012 17:28:11 -0500</pubDate><category>Skills</category><category>dating</category><category>courting</category><category>2012</category><category>attraction</category><category>confidence</category><category>connection</category></item><item><title>daianayumi:

The Runaways _l_

Let’s rock
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&lt;h1 class="firstHeading" id="firstHeading"&gt;The Runaways _l_&lt;/h1&gt;

&lt;p&gt;Let’s rock&lt;/p&gt;
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Alana Hamilton, Rod Stewart, and Keith...</title><description>&lt;img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_luuxlgDBPz1qzdza2o1_500.jpg"/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://superseventies.tumblr.com/post/13033511648/clothes-sale-internet-beauty-cosmetics-anti-aging-jewelr"&gt;superseventies&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Alana Hamilton, Rod Stewart, and Keith Richards.&lt;/p&gt;
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